Better
than Flowers: How to Maintain a Good Relationship with the Girlfriend’s Mom
The Boyfriend’s Reference- in
6 Easy Steps!
by Tabitha Damm
We all know that in order to
truly win over a girl’s heart, is to win the heart of her mother. Some girls
like playing the rebel and are perfectly fine, if not enjoy, going against
Mama’s best wishes for a while. However, over time, most girls realize that
their relationships with their men are much better when their moms approve.
As
the saying goes, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”
If
you want to have the best chances in your relationship with your girlfriend,
you need to have a good relationship with her Mom.
Here are 6 Easy Steps you must do to maintain or start
a relationship with the mom off to a great start!
1. Thank
her.
Be polite and earnest, and show her
appreciation. All the time, whenever you can. After all, she did go
through all the trouble of rising you’re girl into the one you love today. By
thanking her, you’re showing a good basic level of respect.
2. Occasionally
txt her.
It doesn’t have to be anything long, fancy
or well thought out, but sending a funny picture, or just saying “Hi” can mean
a lot. If you and your girl are hanging out, maybe send her a quick pic of what
you’re doing, or something funny she said. And don’t forget to add the “J”
3. Hang
out with the fam.
Sure, you’d much rather be alone with your
girl, in the privacy of your own home or away from prying eyes, but by spending
time with your girlfriend’s family you show your girlfriend that you care about
what matters to her, and also make mom feel more comfortable about who she’s
letting her daughter spend so much time with. Make an effort to come
over and just hang out with the whole gang at least once or twice a month. Try
to be a part of the family. After all, if you’re planning on getting serious
with this girl, you’re going to become a part of her family anyways, weirdos
and all, no matter how much they can annoy you, so you might as well make this
transition a lot easier on yourself.
4.
Offer
to help.
You’re strong and able. Your girlfriend
knows you can protect her and you jump at the chance to help her… But what
about her mom? Not as easy to help when you don’t get the immediate pay-off
like a kiss or hug or great showers of appreciation from you’re gal, huh?
However, to win your way into Mama’s admiration you gotta offer a hand now and
then. Grass needs mowing? Offer to help. Laundry needs folding? Jump right in. Better
yet, why not ask mom if there’s anything you can do? If she says “no,” offer
ideas. But just be sure you’re willing to do what she says with a happy face. Show
the mama you can be the knight in shining armor your girlfriend thinks you are.
(Sound like more work than you’d like, and wondering what you get from it?
First off, read the title of this article, and second, you’re girl is always
watching. Trust me, if she sees you being the helpful man, you’ll turn her
on faster than you can say “What can I do?”)
5. Forgive
her.
You’re not always going to agree with what
the mom does or says, and sometimes she’ll do things that make you mad or you
don’t understand. You are not in her shoes, however, and it’s not your place to
judge. I’m not saying that you have to be okay with everything she does, but
stop and realize that she is just a person, like you. Everyone makes
mistakes. You’re not going to be able to change her, and that can be
frustrating, especially when you need to have a good relationship with her for
your girlfriend’s sake. But by stopping, taking a deep breath, and remembering
that nobody’s perfect, you can make the active choice to forgive her. And
don’t forget what keeps you two connected. The love of one girl. And for
her sake, try to have a forgiving heart.
6. Show
you how much you care about her daughter.
Mama’s biggest worry is that you’re not
treating her daughter as good as she deserves. Nothing makes a mom more
scared for her daughter’s choice in men than watching her boyfriend not treat
her like a princess. If Mama sees you doing things like ignoring your girl,
bossing her around, letting her do all the work, or (the big “no no”) not
listening to her, you can bet your bottom she’s going to lose all respect of
who you are to your girlfriend. After all, she’s her daughter before she’s your
girlfriend. You certainly shouldn’t be doing any of the above in a good
relationship anyways, but I understand that sometimes slip ups are going to
happen, just make an extreme conscious effort NOT to do them where
mama’s eyes can see. Mama’s worked hard to make the wonderful girl you call
your girlfriend, and it breaks her heart to see her getting walked on in any
way. To mama, you’re lucky to have such a girl, so treat her as such. Try to
be the most loving gentlemen you can be to your princess all the time, but
especially when mama’s around.
If you do
all the above and you still can’t seem to win your girl’s mama over, don’t give
up. It can take a long time to create good relationships, and even longer to
re-build them.
And never
forget to always be asking yourself-
“Am I behaving like the boyfriend I’d want my daughter to date?”
